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Surface Tension

My twice-monthly newsletter helps parents in multicultural relationships explore how their own cultural upbringing shapes their parenting instincts, so that they can bring more curiosity and self-awareness into their relationship and the way they raise their child. Surface Tension weaves together personal story, cultural reflection, and expert guidance to help parents better understand themselves, and make space for the differences that give their family its depth and warmth.

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Helping, holding back, and the stories we carry

It looks like a simple question: “Can you help me?” Usually accompanied by those big eyes that are hard to resist. The moment your child asks you, your instinct kicks in (or maybe you feel it as tension): do you step in, or hold back? And what about your partner—would they handle it the same way, or differently? Underneath it all is a deeper question: What does it mean to care? Every parenting moment carries culture. Even the tiny ones. Sometimes it feels like you and your partner are...

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Before we begin... For those of you who have been on my email list for a while, thank you! When I first began writing, I was often doing it while holding a sleeping baby or toddler. These days, my children are older and I have found the space to devote to writing you more regularly (and at regular hours!) You'll now hear from me twice a month. The Nightlight, the newsletter I've been sending you sporadically for years, is now Surface Tension. I'll still be writing about culture and parenting,...